tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post5857976923643174232..comments2023-02-26T08:51:00.471-08:00Comments on Sisters In Submission: Training for the New SubmissiveDragonflyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03817173979437864074noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-11173905391448998832011-12-31T12:23:06.296-08:002011-12-31T12:23:06.296-08:00I am a Mistres/Dom and i have read this and wish t...I am a Mistres/Dom and i have read this and wish to thank you for the good work as this is good info for a sub keep it upAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-43452944847960084362011-11-08T05:07:18.701-08:002011-11-08T05:07:18.701-08:00Hello.
We are new to the lifestyle and my M would ...Hello.<br />We are new to the lifestyle and my M would like some tips and guidelines. If anyone has a regimen, or more detailed info inon thier personal ways- it would be most helpful. As we r having a hard time with starting our expectations and limits.<br />Piercedtinkrbell@aol.com - please title subject line so that I know it isn't spam mail. :)<br />Thank u<br />S-toryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-60539511749917672752011-10-14T01:12:35.158-07:002011-10-14T01:12:35.158-07:00I wanna thank you so much for this blog. Its helpe...I wanna thank you so much for this blog. Its helped so much. My master has had other sum/slaves befor me but i have not had a dom/master. We have been trying to see were we are in the relashionship. I do amit our age is a gap and i do think he scared im goin to run. He is so good to me and the pain he gives dos not hurt. I just keep wanting more but scared its not what he wants to give and scared im unable to give what he needs. But thank you againAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-30628518643276824792011-09-21T08:06:35.531-07:002011-09-21T08:06:35.531-07:00Excellent article, As a dom with a sub gf we agree...Excellent article, As a dom with a sub gf we agreed to make the arrangement much more formal and put in place a proper training regime with a view to my sub becoming the perfect slut. To this end I constructed a training matrix which covered many areas and broke down each area into seperate sub areas and excercises to develop my sluts abilities over time. I am happy to provide further details / copies of the training matrix free of charge for anyone who may be interested by applying to <br />crowsfoot999@hotmail.com.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-37702986537541908792011-05-22T20:06:27.885-07:002011-05-22T20:06:27.885-07:00I am a new sub as well and as i am recently openin...I am a new sub as well and as i am recently opening myself up for this need in my life i just so happen to run across a Man who i have learn in this last year is fully worthy of my submission yet i am a stubborn woman by nature and have only deal with women in my life i am at a lost i have done things to push him test Him and they have cause me to truly see that if i want to serve Him what i want is second to His and now i have to prove myself and i am unsure we are back to only phone and i dont know how to please Him i need advise please helpButterflynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-77264727240534621842011-05-22T06:04:55.246-07:002011-05-22T06:04:55.246-07:00This is the first article I've read that's...This is the first article I've read that's actually been a help to me at all.. I've never been in a D/s relationship, but lately I've been reading about it a lot and I'm very interested in becoming a submissive. I have been looking EVERYWHERE for what type of training I would need, and your article has helped so much. Thank you, thank you, thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-25425787967609509472011-04-29T15:10:16.163-07:002011-04-29T15:10:16.163-07:00I was a long time submissive and found it very rew...I was a long time submissive and found it very rewarding but as satisfied as I felt and as happy as I was being a good slave...I felt like I needed something more. Several years ago a met an extemely submissive man and for years we have communicated electronically and he has begged me to dominate him. A few months ago I decided to get into more detail with him about his desires to completely submit to me. Since we have been communicating for years there is a great level of comfort and respect already built...what brought me to your blog is for years I have had the mind set of a sub...I know there are switches in this lifestyle so it is not unusual what I am doing but what do I know about making someone completely submit to me. I want to be a good of a dom as I was a sub. I want my sub`s experiences with me to be as fulfilling as I experienced as a sub myself...so I m here on the internet looking for answers and this is the first place I ended up. Things are really getting intense and we have our first session next Friday. I want everything to go perfectly and I must really want this as it has me extremely anxious for the day to finally arrive...I can't wait to give it a go! Any advice or thoughta from anyone out thereanxious new Dommenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-85118765781038581772011-02-15T11:54:17.345-08:002011-02-15T11:54:17.345-08:00Thank you for your article. It was very interestin...Thank you for your article. It was very interesting. What you have said about the Submissive Wife Project is very misleading (as first impressions often are). I've been a member for quite awhile and am very familiar with the site.<br /><br />Nobody is required to practice Constant Arousal or not wear pants although that could help some people to increase awareness. Mentoring isn't about being trained. Submission means many things to many people and it doesn't necessarily have to be sexual in nature. <br /><br />I hope I have not offended you but I wanted to correct the inaccuracies. Good luck in your submissive journeys.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-54890240350020597502010-09-19T01:53:10.421-07:002010-09-19T01:53:10.421-07:00When I met Elle she didn't have any aspiration...When I met Elle she didn't have any aspirations to be subservient to me infact she was quite disrespectful being a thirteen year old girl and all but even though I myself was only fifteen I knew what I wanted and that was an obedient girlfriend. Now my fiancée and a submissive one at that, Elle tells me she had no idea when were first dating that she was being trained and if I hadn’t shown her the joys of submission she would have ran a mile but after years of T&T (training and taming which is important if your girl is not yet obedient) she understands and accepts her place in my home and that place is the kitchen, kidding kind of but not really, because it is important for a wife to know how to cook for her husband but at the same time she’s my wife not my chef besides a chef doesn’t clean or run your errands, a chefs wife does or should but I’m getting offtopic the fact is when you eventually do meet a man (and a girl as feminine as yourself, that’ll be in no time) who’ll “take charge” I have no doubt that you will obey him and accept your punishment when it comes but as a man myself I can tell you we are creatures of order and we like things done in a precise way and that’s why your Dom will be training you not so you WILL obey him, that’s what the taming’s for and you’re already tamed, it’s so you will know HOW to obey him because every man is different, so you can research until your blue in the face or just experience “first hand” when you have a boyfriend to train you until your blue in the ass because trust me when Elle and I were dating aside from her daily maintenance spanking I would have to discipline my then girlfriend basically every other day but when she realized I was a man and wouldn’t be disrespected by my girl she started to behave herself and if you do the same and follow his instructions your boyfriend won’t have to be so thorough as I was with my little troublemaker. From EllespankerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-57918864085140488002010-08-06T08:17:54.052-07:002010-08-06T08:17:54.052-07:00I am a sub in a long distance ownership most of m...I am a sub in a long distance ownership most of my training has been done by phone or internet.. i have a tendency to defy him because of the distance.. only to have the punishment be more severe when i am before him.. i know the concequencces are coming.. anyone else have this problem and corrected it..tonysangelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08809734640592169081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-83874912889985248302010-07-17T06:58:20.149-07:002010-07-17T06:58:20.149-07:00I have been trying to resarch about becoming a sub...I have been trying to resarch about becoming a submissive, the more i resarch the more i want to become, how do i start? if any one can help me please xtrevzangelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-38963859532954119332010-03-27T23:26:26.082-07:002010-03-27T23:26:26.082-07:00I have began an online D/s realtoonship, which onl...I have began an online D/s realtoonship, which only makes things a bit harder since the physical contact is missing, but find myself dealing with the same struggles I read of other subs. Thank you for sharing. At times I feel like somethings should come easily to me if I am truly meant to be a sub. For me the hardest has been the emotional/mindset training. Reading your blog just helps me feel okay that feeling certain things are okay and that being the perfect sub is not something automatic, but something that needs to be worked at.Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11020921518984529869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-90234816693405214952010-01-18T15:41:58.582-08:002010-01-18T15:41:58.582-08:00I have really enjoyed reading all of this. Having ...I have really enjoyed reading all of this. Having finally accepted that what I desire is not wrong and then founding my Lover, I feel i have finally unlocked a very important part of myself. I also found it hard to get more information as I keep finding I want to prove myself to him and show him that I am willing. There are no people here for me to talk to and ask questions. The hardest part is finding our boundaries and identifying mental blocks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-61219802383781878792009-11-28T15:03:23.901-08:002009-11-28T15:03:23.901-08:00i am new to this path. the morei have read, the mo...i am new to this path. the morei have read, the more I am intrigued yet know that this is a life that appeals to me. I have a Dom. Heis fair, just and very loving, yet i need to please him fully and would like to communicate with other subs out there. He as with many has his set rules which are easy to follow. My problem is i had been alone for a long while before having found this path, and my mind is to used to doing things for myself and being independent. I need to change this line of thought kind get out of the mindset i guess you could say. it is happening slowly, but i need this to happen faster. is there anyone out there with whom i can speak? Please let me knowAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-42708109362752071072009-11-19T08:07:01.914-08:002009-11-19T08:07:01.914-08:00As a male Master, your blog is very insightful. I ...As a male Master, your blog is very insightful. I believe training IS very personal and unique to each individual. A good submissive is totally giving of herself without question but must do so of her own free will.<br /><br />The training is in enabling oneself to understand their boundaries both physically and mentally. AND the training is one founded in communication. A good submissive is NOT afraid of her Master unless mindless slavery is her intent. A good submissive is obedient to her Master’s pleasure and guided to learn every nuance to maximize such pleasure.<br /><br />But there is a BUT. The training is a two way street. Too many submissives forget that in return they have a right to expect a respect of that gift of full submission, and not have it taken for granted. <br /><br />It becomes too easy for a selfish Master to forget that a submissive, while they may thrive on that sense of humiliation within submission, is not a shadow. She is your pet, a love, a passion and a responsibility.<br /><br />Occasionally a Master and submissive may part, for whatever reason. That parting needs to be one where a submissive can regain an identity to function and survive beyond the submissive relationship. In that aspect the training is twofold, between the Master and his/her slave. It is a characteristic too often ignored.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-65596134107793261252009-10-30T10:46:41.656-07:002009-10-30T10:46:41.656-07:00spicyhotdomme@gmail you can contact me therespicyhotdomme@gmail you can contact me thereAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-24413672076667519982009-10-30T10:45:18.375-07:002009-10-30T10:45:18.375-07:00Very good. you can contact me directly at spicyhot...Very good. you can contact me directly at spicyhotdomme@gmail<br /><br />then delete this posting sweetieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-83086183045940682672009-10-30T05:14:14.260-07:002009-10-30T05:14:14.260-07:00I am aware that this post is not a new one but I h...I am aware that this post is not a new one but I have to say that I really enjoyed it. i am new to this lifestyle and my Master is training me to be the woman he wants me to be. We are miles apart but we are getting closer day by day. I was wondering about the positions (standing) now I know. He likes for me to read and learn something new and I am now going to let him know what i have learned so that we can put this in my training to this new way of life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-18644945745319704362009-09-24T06:16:41.579-07:002009-09-24T06:16:41.579-07:00i read your post and found it to be the exact same...i read your post and found it to be the exact same problems i am experiencing in finding info and resources online- i was curious about "your pathways to submission" at the end of your post- sounds promising but i wasnt able to find it anywhere on the net- is it a book or a website? how did you come across it? thank you in advance for your reply!jinxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11866088252071759944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-45989083031551901192009-07-05T17:00:35.994-07:002009-07-05T17:00:35.994-07:00Wonderful posting!
I loved your insight and see th...Wonderful posting!<br />I loved your insight and see that your a a seasoned submissive. It is hard o find good information on the internet that can help a submissive walk in their role. Keep up the good work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-22399739207522803892009-06-30T10:13:01.726-07:002009-06-30T10:13:01.726-07:00"As a new and Dom-less submissive, I wondered...<b>"As a new and Dom-less submissive, I wondered about training."</b><br /><br />Greetings sister. This one is called swan by her Master. she too is new to the "lifestyle" as she has only had a Master now for several weeks.<br /><br />Having never experienced a D/s relationship outside of on line RP in Gor, i too worried about training. If i would somehow fall short of my Master's expectations, and so i too began to read (and still do) every bit of material i can find, written by both Masters and submissives.<br /><br />What i have learned is that Many Masters don't want a 'trained slave', because what that ultimately means is that you have been trained to do things the way "someone else" wants/expects you to behave,serve, act, kneel, etc..<br /><br />Each Master has Their Own unique way of doing things, and Their Own unique expectations of Their subs.<br /> <br />To go into a new D/s relationship "already trained" means, in many cases, that your Master will have to "Untrain" you, so that He can then train you to behave, serve,kneel,act the way He expects/requires. The greatest gift swan knows that you can give your new Master, when you find Him, is a clean slate. An untrained submissive ready and willing to learn His every rule, expectation and pleasure. Learning what He wants, rather than 'generic training' or being trained to 'another's liking' is what will make you stand out and shine above all others in your Master's eyes!! your eagerness and willingness to cater to Him!<br /><br />swan is blessed to have found the Master she has. He is patient, and He is clear in His expectations of her.. He explains exactly what He expects from her, how He expects it, and when it is appropriate He will explain why to her as well.<br /><br />When you first meet your Master, swan would suggest you make sure that Your Master knows and understands Your limits as a submissive. For instance, swan has several sexual limitations (eg: she doesn't participate in gay f/f sex, and so on.). Before you are owned is the best time to speak of such things. Submission is the most precious gift you have to give.. Make sure y/You are compatible before you give yourself away. Once you do, you are not yours to take back, you are His!!! <br /><br /> Make sure you have an open line of communication with your Master/Dom. Ask Him what is expected of you, how He wishes you to do things, and so on.. i think you will find this more pleasing to any Master than any other gift you can give Him as a new sub.<br /><br />Swan wishes you luck sister!Master YT's swanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05338495006209923481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-28732529318977222552009-05-06T19:32:00.000-07:002009-05-06T19:32:00.000-07:00I've answered you in a post, dearest sweet anonymo...I've answered you in a post, dearest sweet anonymous...Dragonflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03817173979437864074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-76149728087238177512009-05-06T14:31:00.000-07:002009-05-06T14:31:00.000-07:00I have only just begun my training following a lon...I have only just begun my training following a long intense and passionate verbal courting. We have shared our commitment as master husband and submissive wife to be together in all things as we explore this new life together. Only the past few days he has been distant, many things on his mind. I feel cut off, insecure, yet I stride to master my emotions and paranoia. Is this part of my training? He is very busy with family issues. Perhaps this is merely the vanilla part of the life we straddle between normal and master and submissive? Should I relax, be silent, patient? He is so strong, and I want to be there for him, but I do not wish to overstep my sub bounds. Should I be worried? Thoughts are greatly appreciated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-28749073565138703182009-01-30T23:32:00.000-08:002009-01-30T23:32:00.000-08:00Incredible. You had me from "hello." LOL, seriou...Incredible. You had me from "hello." LOL, seriously, this is good. I do not understand how someone can realize they need training as you have, when it happened to my husband and I, we had never heard of any of this (it came to me in a dream) and accidentally started training. A short while later, we were on the Internet, and we found, as you had, there was a lot, yet there was nothing! Again, time changed what we found, as we learned more and more words that could make searching and finding much easier. Thank you for a well said thought on your blog. Good luck! CleoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7643573730420926096.post-24163201460392997562008-01-09T21:13:00.000-08:002008-01-09T21:13:00.000-08:00My Dearest January what a wonderful new blog. You ...My Dearest January what a wonderful new blog. <BR/><BR/>You raise some interesting points. I think training works best in a marriage where the HOH is most definitely in control. He is leading by example, he is setting the expectations and he is ensuring his standards are met. In such a marriage training is part of everyday life.<BR/><BR/>Where you have a very submissive wife and a reluctant HOH I don’t see how training could work. The wife cannot train her HOH. She can respectfully request he is firmer with her. <BR/><BR/>There are wide a variety of methods of training. I mostly use praise to build a self-image of a good girl. It is very important that a submissive has a positive image of herself. A submissive is not a meek and demure little thing, she must hold her head high with pride. After all she is a creature of exquisite beauty and should rightfully be worshiped in her own right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com