Survey questions #1 and #2

#1 What do you consider yourself?

Dominant 20.3%

submissive 66.1%

Switch 8.5%

Other 8.5%

slave have some dominant tendencies....but I'm not a switch..make sense?

somewhat dominant but lazy about it

#2 How do you express this in your life?

1. i am submissive to my husband
2. by serving my Master in all that i do no matter where or what i am doing
3. I am in a D/s relationship. We live about two hours apart and meet every 1-3 months, although we talk everyday. I also host a blog, where I journal about my relationship and lifestyle.
4. I have a Master, and when I am not committed to one person, I enter other relationship that are characterized by the D/s dynamic - whether ongoing relationships or episodic sessions
5. by controlling my Pet
6. I am really just starting, but I like to service Master in domestic chores
7. Very carefully. Very discreetly.
8. Primarily in the bedroom--with a loving partner. Also in workshops, activism and "outreach" (getting tipsy and saying inappropriate things to vanilla people...oops)
9. I am always submissive to my Master. He allows me to do what I want to do with his blessing but I ultimately answer to him.
10. sexually
11. the dynamic is the reality .. although not readily apparent to those outside the know. In fact, D. and I find ourselves vastly amused as there is often a perception that it is the "other" way ... yet look hard - I make sure his favourite coffee is in, make his lunch every day - cook his favourite dishes, we both keep up with laundry and manage the kids, but I keep his vitamin regime filled and ensure he always has what he needs and like to spoil him generally ...
12. it's hard to say. sometimes i identify moments of "submissiveness," but i'm a pretty outgoing girl, so it's not expressed all that often in my "real life." i do have an online journal, and that is probably the only place in my life that i really explore or express my submission
13. 24/7
14. i am His slave and around others, i am just generally more concerned about their feelings and comforts than my own.
15. I live in a 24/7 relationship in which I define my position as "slave" as well as masochistic partner to a Dominant and a sadist who is my Master. Ours is a heterosexual, polyamorous household that is driven by power exchange dynamics at its core.
16. For many years through sexuality only. More recently it has become more integrated. That integration is developing now.
17. I defer choice and freedom to my owner. I practice obedience, battle reactance, work hard to know myself and be transparent and honest. I give up my rights and allow myself to trust and be controlled. I ask before doing. I respect. I accept.
18. I am a slave in a committed relationship to a Master. I write in a blog centered around M/s.
19. Through ownership of my slave.
20. i am my Owner's 24/7 no limit slave
21. I have sought for a long time, the right dominant for me. And at last, I have found him, and he me.
22. I devote myself to my Master and wear a collar to signify his dominance over me.
23. It's hard for me to express this aspect of my life since so many people would be unforgiving of it. I keep it to myself for the most part. Since I'm new to the BDSM world, I feel like I still have a lot of time to express this aspect of who I am.
24. I have a lover who is my dominant. We can't be together every day but we talk 2 or 3 times a day by phone, email, IM. He guides me, listens to me, disciplines me.
25. Writing
26. I have always been a leader, a manager, a facilitator. I am a large/tall person and natural take the lead in most situations.
27. new, very new to submission. Am struggling with subfever and a vanilla marriage...BUT!Husband interested. Want to go deeper into submission, but don't have a Dom...so this website is really the first good thing (besides yesterday's finding January Blackthorne's blog) that I have come across....have some correspondence with a Gorean Dom/Trainer...I am very confused girl here...
28. my husband is the HOH and I follow his rules. I get spanked when I don't. I am not to refuse sex, but I can express my reluctance to and He will listen and decide if my reason is valid (ie unwell, etc). I am not allowed to argue his decisions but again I may express myself in a polite way, but not in front of our children.
29. my husband is the HOH and I follow his rules. I get spanked when I don't. I am not to refuse sex, but I can express my reluctance to and He will listen and decide if my reason is valid (ie unwell, etc). I am not allowed to argue his decisions but again I may express myself in a polite way, but not in front of our children.
30. I submit everyday. I work at being pleasing for myself and that works for Master. The harder I work to please the better it is. No matter how small it makes me feel very nice.
31. Generally I don't express it. I do recognise my desire to please, but at the same time, I only feel submissive when in the presence of certain personality types. Basically, if someone is the typical "natural leader", I tend to be acquiescent. I do have lifestyle friends that I socialize with and am freer to express my submissiveness when I desire to. I also attend various lifestyle events as often as I am able to. Well, now that I think about it, I do express my submissiveness when it comes to sex. It's easier to explain and get what I want in that area.
32. Tell my wife what to do when she asks. Make her sit down with me in the evening and read blogs/watch porn videos/films with a love interest/interesting news or other items. Tell her "that's enough" when she starts arguing. Tell her what to wear. She's very willing, I want to do more but as I said, I am lazy about it.
33. i have a (for want of a better word) boyfriend with whom i have been in a D/s relationship since February of 2007. what began as an exchange of erotic e-mails with no pre-defined sexual slant developed into a "real" love relationship with a D/s structure. this is conducted mostly at a distance, but has grown nevertheless. the D/s structure serves both our needs, and when we do spend time together (long visits) we specifically set time aside for bdsm play. we are well suited in our fantasies and desires, and affection and humor underlie all our interactions, even the fiercest ones. one other thing to note, as you will see from my profile (i don't yet keep a blog) - there is a wide age gap between us, and it is the opposite of what might normally be expected. i am nearly 59 and he is 37. it works.
34. I am Head of my Household. I set the rules my Wife must live by
35. I am in a D/s relationship, although at this stage it is not able to be 24/7, there is a high amount of contact hours.
36. I enjoy being dominated sexually and sometimes dominating, though that is very much outside the box for me.
37. Meetings and ongoing interactions with like-minded men involving corporal punishment, slapping, exchange of power and control, and sexual control Sat,
38. 24/7
39. My partner and I are currently in a D/s relationship. We are at an intermediate level when it comes to experience.
40. I tend to be dominant with others in my life and crave another dominant to force me into more submissive behavior.
41. I have an Owner that I rely on for orders and arrangement of our sexual endeavors. In my professional life, I am not submissive; quite the opposite but behind closed doors, I am 100% submissive and a servant slave. I do not have any tangible signs of being a submissive but my mind is marked and always rooted around my Owner.
42. Very minorly. For example, by taking a dominant role during cybersex, or occasionally during real life sex.
43. I am never passive during sex, I'm always controlling or directing what takes place.
44. I am confident and in such seek to have peace in my life, it is not easy for one must first master ones emotions, and understand that things should always be questioned. THIS SHOULD BE "HOW DO YOU EXPRESS THIS IN THE LIFESTYLE"
45. Everyday life: Generally treat people as equals, tendency to dominate and control situations unless with someone that clicks my 'sub' button. Sexually: varies from slight tendency to follow partner's lead to full on bondage, humiliation, pain and especially control-based explorations.
46. I own a slave
47. I live a submissive role 24/7, in that the Dominant always has the final word. I am intelligent and can do quite well on my own. But I find it best to be able to come home and not be in charge any longer.
48. I am an owned pet, by the beautiful Goddess Feral. In a wonderful relationship with Her, I'm glad to be in Her service. But I am a Sergeant of US Marines, and I am currently seeking a pet for myself
49. I consider the "lifestyle" aspect to simply be an extension of what otherwise is considered by most to be a "dominant" personality. Of course I tend to express the Dominant in me most comfortably in my interaction with other lifestyle oriented individuals, and principally my lovely slave.
50. It is only expressed with my dominant partner.
51. My job - I 'manage' a program for mentally ill adults, but it affords me the opportunity to serve in some fashion. In my choice of hobbies; I garden for the excuse of kneeling, which centers me. I am always 'me.'
52. I am in a monogamous relationship with a Dominant male partner. This is the first D/s relationship for us both, and as such, there is much open communication and experimentation as it concerns limits, desires, formality, process and protocol. We are less concerned with following "the rules" than about finding our own way and what turns us on.
53. By seeking an educated, strong man to mentor me and spank me when necessary
54. i am married to a vanilla man and have sought Ds relationships outside of my marriage without my husbands consent/knowledge. I have always been totally honest with any Dom i have met that i have no desire to change my marital status but seek a Ds relationship to meet my submissive needs which are not fulfilled within my marriage.
55. agreeing to behave in certain ways; being accountable for bad behaviour; agreeing to discipline; to obey when asked to do certain sexual activities; to accept that he has the right to deny something e.g orgasm, wearing panties
56. In my monogamous relationship with my girl who identifies as submissive. We engage in a power exchange that extends beyond the bedroom, but not in a slave and Master sort of context.
57. i live full-time with my Master
58. My husband and I have a Daddy/girl thing. I am completely submissive in our sexual relations in all ways. I do not speak or move at all unless directed or moved by him on 'threat' of pain. ; )We also include lots of beating not as punishment, just because he can and because I love it. I have no outlined rights or limits, though there are some lifestyle rules for me. On the other hand I would not categorize myself as 24/7 or as a 'slave' because in reality most of my time is spent on regular life, including raising children which makes much less time available for kink. I have always been aroused by violence and threats, by being hit or hurt, and have fantasized about this since I was a child. I have never been aroused by vanilla things, and never had an orgasm with out pain, or imagining pain.
59. Two ways. I write some fiction and keep a personal, anonymous blog. And I am partnered with a woman who considers herself submissive.
60. With non-partner tops-occasionally by appointment, otherwise at play parties.
61. through the internet
62. I write a D/s blog, and have mentoring relationships with submissives through online contact only